aka R’acquel

Hmm… Aidan’s start with the new school year has been unsettled. Year 1 is definitely not as much fun compared to Kindy. A lot more structured, more work at the “table” - and it’s making life very difficult for him.

He had a virus 2 weeks ago, which caused a rise in his temperature but it didn’t result in any overt cold’n'flu symptoms. Enough to keep him at home for a day, but the day after that - Mitch & I kicked into the,

“You must soldier on kiddo - mum & dad don’t take time off work.”

…in the sense that our own parents did no differently with my husband & me when we ued to holler out,

“Mum/Dad - i’m not feeling well, i don’t want to go to school today.”

It was during this time that some of Aidan’s angst towards school started to come out and it hasn’t been easy for me to drop him off at school for the last 2 weeks. I’ve had this sinking feeling. I’ve been trusting my intuition very deeply of late. It’s been so accurate and spot-on, which makes me trust my gut-feelings even more. This is no mystical-psychic ability I’ve got here, i’m regarding it like a very sophisticated computer in my body that’s making super-fast calculations which I know are based on very logical-like explanations behind it all. I guess it would take me a bloody novel to explain it all - no need for me to justify, i just “know” and i’m trusting my gut religiously.

February 11th - that’s when the uber-intuitive sensations struck me really hard. There - it’s been 16 days since i’ve been sensing something “askew” even though i’ve been picking up on this for a while longer. I found it really hard to “let go” of my son that day. I was overwhelmed by this sensation that i had just made a terrible mistake by leaving my kid at school that day. I wasn’t able to shake that feeling off for a few hours - it was really disturbing for me. It was making me feel so uneasy that i was almost contemplating on calling the school,

“If Aidan has trouble at school today, can you please give us a call? I’ve got this sensation that i think he could have a very unsettled day today.”

…and my body, still screaming at me,

“Something’s not right! Something’s not right!!!” my body - wishing i had never left him there. My body - feeling so unsettled,

“Go to the school, take him out of it now - you need to be there, he needs you, you’ve just left him to the wolves!”

/// ~ how to explain that rationally?

…and of course i hesitated on making that phone call - didn’t exactly want to make a fool out of myself on the basis of having a “HUNCH”, hey - even consulted with my husband to see if i was being “over the top” with “just imagining things” (ok, maybe over the top to call the school, but we will need to check in with them)…but oh my - those feelings, and the way that the day had panned out…(and in hindsight, i regret “denying” and invalidating my feelings/intuition in the way that i did).

Major class disruptions due to enrolment numbers. My son’s aid didn’t arrive at school that day -off at an interview for another job, she’s moving on and will eventually be replaced by someone else.

Aidan’s mood/morale/attitude towards school - not good. Seriously - not good in our opinion, cause for concern and I’ve started doing the rounds of contacting other people. Checked in with the school, the hospital, family support services, scheduling Aidan to try a drama class next week - taking the steps required to get some help to intervene with this.

I was hoping that a change of scenery could’ve helped lift Aidan’s spirits up, so i took him to my parent’s place over the weekend whilst Mitch was away on business over the weekend. We spent about 6 hours swimming at the pool. He’s progressing rather well with it - learnt how to do forward/backward sommersaults underwater. My mother could see the shift in his mood, she can sense how the school environment is not helping. We’re not imagining it - even my son’s aid can see it. If i face anyone who fails to see it - i’m not going to think very highly of them.

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My husband checked in with his new teacher recently. I’m not sure of how that conversation panned out as i had to wrangle the kid away to the car. We’re not comfortable about Aidan being present when adults are “talking about him”. It affects him, so this has made our bodies sensitive to it, as we’re the ones who has to live with his interpretations & internalisations of what the adutls are talking about.

I caught myself off-guard tonight when Aidan’s aid called me tonight. I was asking her if she’s seen his library bag, because he didn’t bring it home. Aidan was right next to me on the phone - he heard every single word, every single one of my “concerns” raised over the phone. I later faced this terrible story of this nightmare he imagined of being charged by the librarian loaded with so much persecutory attack towards himself.

The red flag for us was a few days ago,

“Why don’t they all (school) just get a gun and shoot me/put me into jail.”

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As for the uber-validation of my kid?

*sighs*

I experienced it on Monday. It was the way my son woke up in the morning, that made me stop and take the time to really listen to him.

“Mum - i really don’t want to go to school today. I’m not feeling well. I need to take a day off to heal.”

No signs of cold’n'flu, his mood/morale was down, he was tired - but it was the way he said “heal” that made me listen more. My “you must soldier on” way of life lost it’s power. As soon as i heard my son telling me that he needed time to heal, i backed off.

“Ok honey - let’s take it easy today and take the time to heal…”

It was followed by,

“I love you mum…” but when he said that - it sounded like,

“Thanks mum - thanks for listening to me…”

So - we took things really easy on Monday.

“Are you starting to feel a bit better?”
“Yes mum! I’m getting better!”

Got a call from the aid, saying she won’t be in on Tuesday.

Fine - we’ll take Tuesday to heal as well.

Another call tonight - aid not coming in on Wednesday - working at the other school.

Fine - i’m not taking my kid into school tomorrow either. Not taking him in, until my gut-feeling starts to shift and unless my son’s regular aid will be there.

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“Ayca - he’s so lost now….”

No - that’s not my kid. It’s another one a year ahead. Less funding, assistance from the aid slowly being withdrawn. We’re not feeling confident that the school has enough experience with this. I’m trusting my gut-feelings.

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I’m not overtly stressed. I’m not feeling helpless. I’m feeling very capable & resourceful. I’m feeling very skilled & confident in knowing how to deal with this remarkably well. My intuition - is serving me well. I can almost see the answers right in front of me - within me. I can feel the answers inside me. I’m taking action every day.

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The state of my house is reflecting my mood. I can see great clarity & strength emerging.

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The beauty of conflict, is it’s capacity to inspire change & amazing things that follow as the result of that change. Without it, i think we’d all still be living in mudbrick shithouses and complaining because no one came up with the idea of designing a sewage system to effectively deal with the stinking shit on the streets.

Like, in the olden days - people used to wear 20-30cm wooden platform shoes to stop all the piss & shit on the streets from staining their clothes… and i’m sure we can be thankful to the guy who invented toilet paper a few centuries ago as well.

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How does it work overseas? Do people in other countries experience the same follow-up phenomena (bird-call) we do in English with that,

“How are you?” question after you say hello…

…but when the person asks you that question, they really don’t care or don’t have the time of day to listen - so the question is just some kind of social protocal that’s more like an extended hello instead?

Does this happen in other languages/cultures?

I could really do with some alternative greetings, or ways to manage this question that has truly shitted me for eternity (a good 15 years at least). It doesn’t bother me so much when people do really care and want to know though.

I enjoyed one response to this question i found online,

“It depends on how much time you’ve got.”

Makes me wonder if other’s who get upset by the frivolity of this question like i do, are the kind who take quite some time to get around to explaining things.

The other thing i’ve noticed, is some people may actually be miserable, suffering, e.g;

“How are you?”

“Well gee, i’ve got chemo-therapy followed by another colonoscopy on my bloody colon cancer tomorrow”. (something not-so pleasant, therefore not so socially acceptable to digress beyond “fine/good”)

Ah well - a toast to the joys of blogging then, coz my mates can just ramble-on about how things are to their heart’s content and take as long as they need to.

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Having a ball with my experimental phd by studying humans greeting me at the supermarket/business check-outs. It’s been fascinating to study their faces, let alone watch how people move their trolleys and have to navigate each other’s space (where some have peripheral vision and make allowances for you, while others are completely aloof to your presence)

Some don’t say much - but some like to ramble. The ones i enjoy the most are those that always start with a loud/bright/crisp/enthusiastic,

“Hi!” or “Hello!” and don’t do the sudden “How are you (but i don’t really care)” thing on auto-pilot. They’re usually the ones worth talking to, or - the ones most likely to talk. When people start to reveal personal details and preferences during the conversation, i know i’m dealing with someone interesting - especially if they have a good sense of humour and are not affraid of laughing.

I’m surprised by how much of a conversationalist this experiment has been turning me into and the amazing things you can learn about the world around you when you can tap into conversations that extend beyond “what a lovely day it is” (weather talk parading as another extended “hello”). It’s been quite funny actually. Sometimes, i’m able to twist things into a group conversation with the check-out person and the people lining up behind or in front of me. Sometimes, i meet people who just talk and talk and talk and talk. The other good news, is that about 90-95% of humans i’ve been in contact with, are seemingly really nice people too. Quite a contrast compared to the “doom, gloom & misery” that’s presented on the evening news.

I even made a friend with a saleswoman at the shoestore a few weeks ago. We ended up exchanging telephone numbers & email - have met up at the local park for chats. It’s the first time in my entire life i’ve ever gotten someone’s personal contact details like that which has lead to a relationship “out of the blue” - which trully surprised me.

An interesting journey so far, lots of fun

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To my blogging friends - wishing everyone a grand new start to 2008 and to let everyone know that my thoughts are with all. I have been visiting but haven’t had much emotional space to comment much “deep and meaningful” at the moment.

For the last few weeks, i’ve been experiencing a great deal of transition & growth in my personal life. It’s been pretty amazing, but as it’s been taking up so much of my time to process it all - it’s very hard for me to actively blog right now.

Looking forward to getting back into it, but for now - enjoying the amazing changes that are evolving in my life at the moment!

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For the last 4 years or so - i haven’t been watching much television. For long periods within that time, i haven’t watched ANY television at all. As for how it all started - one day, our expensive GRUNDIG TV blew up. I can’t remember how much it was, but it was grossly expensive. It was only 3 years old and I’ve never had a single television blow up on me. Rather offensive when you spend so much money on quality - and then it blows up on you. *lol*

The cost to get it repaired was something like $360 - so we said “stuff that” at the time, for a good 3 months at least. That was the beginning of the change. Life had no television in it because it blew itself up. *lol* Life without television - was pretty good.

It was only recently when i had seen just how good the quality of our TV is since that explosion. Found myself in a department store a few weeks ago - “big TVs” - but after closer look, the quality of the image in many of them is very poor. Came back home that day and saw the quality of the picture at home and i was startled by the difference. So we weren’t crazy spenders at the time afterall. I couldn’t remember what the motive was to buy it was so it was nice to remember. It was the quality - we were gizmo/technology junkies.

So - the last house we were in had no television reception and we were trully loving our life without it. I remember moving into this house and that horrible feeling of connecting the TV into the plug - just to check if reception is working. It felt horrible to turn it back on but it felt good to see Oprah again. I continued working while listening to the oprah show like a radio station. I missed the “learning”. If it was an Oprah show that had nothing new to teach, no problem to switch it right off. That hasn’t changed.

Dirty politics has truly gotten up my goit in the last few weeks. I don’t sit down to watch the news - it was the stuff happening within the commercial breaks. I can’t believe how much i have allowed the television to upset and hurt me the way it has in the last 2-3 months since it came back into our life, but even moreso in the last few weeks with dirty politics dominating at saturation point. It’s been absolutely repulsive. Time to remove negativity like that out of my life - shit like that has no place or even any direct “relevance” to it either~! Serves me right for taking one too many subjects on media studies that gave me so much knowledge on TV’s evil ways to distort the truth with propaganda. Perhaps complete ignorance could have been bliss, but i’m glad i found that power by simply finding the “off” button.

A very long absense from TV has made my emotions less experienced in “defence” & the suspension of disbelief. It’s very hard for me to sit down to a film as well. I don’t cope well with the overstimulation of emotions anymore. It’s been very hard for me to sit down to an entire film and watch it from beginning to end for the last 3-4 years. I should’ve known better not to switch it back on.

How could i allow TV to make me forget just how good this life is here and convince me otherwise!?! I won’t accept that. My marriage is going well. My son is doing well. I’m in the best shape that I’ve ever been in. I know how to cook nourishing meals for my family. I have friends who make me laugh. I see people making a big difference into the lives of others in this life right here in this town. The amazing thing is - it keeps getting better! Doom & gloom is not a part of my own life right here and right now. It doesn’t exist.

Spoke to the hubby. He agrees with me wholeheartedly - so we’re gonna pull the plug on that idiot box again. Our quality of life has always been much better without it. To just think of how much crap i will be cancelling out of my life by never turning it on again makes me feel much better already.

Time for me to get back onto the subject of weather. I obviously had more time for it when i wasn’t watching television.

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Quit Procrastinating I - Defragging Your Brain

TRACKING YOUR RECURRING OBSTACLES
If there’s something that’s always taken me far too long to accomplish (aka procrastinate), the core cause has nearly always been because of a really tough obstacle blocking me. It’s the equivalent of a brick wall - a truly serious block which can at times - truly scare the bloody fucking shit out of me. I’ve had some mighty paralysing obstacles in my day, and still do. I’ve come to realise that it’s incredibly normal to be scared of things like this. Everyone’s going to be scared of something, at some point.

The difference between now and back then - is that i’m better able to to understand and know that i’m facing obstacle when i confront one getting in the way of getting things done. By seeing the obstacle, i can then confront the breaking down of that barrier in my path.

Obstacles are like a noose around the neck. They can be exceptionally suffocating and can cut off the circulation of your project or thing-to-get done. They have the power to stop and get in the way of you achieving your dreams.

If your regular to-do-list isn’t quite working for you, give it a small twist at the end. Here’s an excerpt of what my weekly & daily planner looked like:

Notice that small section at the bottom? I used that space to review the day and list the reasons & excuses for why I couldn’t do the certain things I had set myself up for the day to achieve.

I had all the 7 days listed on one page and began to document the reasons for why i couldn’t get certain things done on the list. After practising this for several weeks, i began to notice my “recurring obstacles” and even moreso after a few months. Tasks of a particular nature - which i always found really difficult to overcome began to manifest in the form of recurring themes of things that i always had trouble with (and still do with some to this very day).

One of the primary examples that comes immediately to mind - was sending invoices to my client in order to get paid for my design work. It used to get so bad that i would have weeks of accumulated invoices not done. Not good at all.

The postal service in my former town at the time, had stroppy & very unpleasant sales folks. A matter of pot luck as to whether or not you would score a good or a bad person at the counter. To compound this problem further, my son (now diagnosed with autism) - couldn’t stand waiting in queues and there was always something acutely terrifying for him when it was time to approach a “counter” of anykind. It was acutely difficult for us to manage, so my husband & I would have to “tag team” when it came to getting the banking/shopping & any other kind of day-to-day life transaction that involved people standing behind any kind of counter. With my husband working a “9-9″ high-stress corporate job at the time, gaining access to the post office was near to impossible for me because they weren’t open on the weekends.

Week after week - my list saw the line up of;

“Write up invoice no.xyz” …and it wouldn’t get done. Used to have several attempts in a week too, often failing!

Anything which had a task dealing with needing to visit the post office to get things mailed - was always left undone. It was simply too hard.

By seeing this recurring problem in my life on my to do lists in this fashion - it made me realise that sending out invoices & dealing with the post office was naturally, a really difficult task for me to overcome. This didn’t make me stupid or bad - it was just something that didn’t come to me easily or naturally. Some people are better at doing things than others. When it came to visiting the post office, the job was too daunting, far too horrible & unpleasant for me. That’s why it had a habit of pushing itself to the bottom of my priority list all the time.

After doing the exercise over several months, i began to realise the commonly recurring things that i always had trouble with. I could see the “brick walls” very clearly - and this helped me to develop strategies to make it “less painful” for myself by confronting the reasons for why i found facing such brick walls were so difficult.

The way in which i tried to lessen the burden of this particular problem;

- I dared to speak to my client, asking her if it was ok to send my invoices via email instead of snail mail. She was perfectly ok with it! It made things more efficient for both of us, so it was a remarkable win/win.

- I organised to buy postage stamps & envelopes in bulk to save me from needing to check-in to the post office in person.

This didn’t eliminate the difficulty of such tasks for me entirely, but it did release a fair degree of the burden I used to carry. With time, i also slowly began to confront my client by daring to assert my own boundaries more clearly in small bites too, in order to make it less painful for me to deal with her.

My weekends were never respected and work always had to be done “urgently”. Being paired with the “disease to please”, this didn’t make things any easier for me! I had to re-state that i would no longer work on weekend about 2-3 times before it finally registered, but i also implemented other strategies. I stopped accepting any work on Fridays and stopping my pathetic habit of promising to deliver work on Mondays too. The latter was far more effective in getting the message across. It was an incredibly effective strategy of not commiting myself to anything unreasonable with a weekend living in the middle of it! I also managed to dare to renegotatiate my rate as well - a very confronting task for me - but again, something that could only be done in small tiny steps. I was thrilled how the small changes & strategies i took on in my life earnt further respect of my time & personal space. Writing up invoices became much easier after that. They got done every week…

As for dealing with the post office these days? Things changed miraculously for me when i moved to Leura a little over a year ago. My goodness - the people at the post office here - they’re so bloody nice, helpful & friendly! It’s perfectly ok for me to ask them questions about the services, they’re more than happy to help by explaining the processes to me! They never make me feel like a burden or a nuisance for simply asking questions to understand how things work! Another one of my recurring obstacles(problems) - is asking other people for help. I’m not very good at it. Actually, i suck quite bad at it.

My son also learnt how to handle his terror of facing people standing behind counters too, so it’s now a great pleasure to go to the post office and other places that involve people standing behing counters. 555. So much for a change in suburb which has finally tackled one hell of an obstacle my life used to face with such a job before. Great customer service certainly goes a long way for me.

Anywayz - one of the first keys to tackling the procrastination thing, is to realise that you’re facing an obstacle when it hits you. I was unable to see them clearly, until i began to document my excuses for not getting things done. I was blind as a bat before that.

By reviewing my list excuses, each one had a certain “feeling” attached to it when i read them. These days, i know i’m facing an obstacle because of how it makes me feel. If i experience a suffocating “glug”, I know i’m facing a brick wall and my challenge is to pull out my axe and smash that wall into smaller & more achievable pieces - but I’ll write in more detail on that with my next piece!

As diaries don’t come with the “excuse” section, feel free to use my following PDFs if you’re unable to make up a chart yourself. HIH.

Weekly Planner
7 Days To A Week Planner

I used the weekly planner to list up my goals for the week, and would then translate them into the 7day chart. It was very useful for me to track how things didn’t get done on a per week basis vs per day. The process made me realise just how over ambitious i was with my goal setting, which is another common problem that functions as the source of procrastination for me - so more on that later too!

Thats it for tonight, so i’m taking a break. Goodnight!

Spent 5 hours yesterday, clocking over 10,000 steps in my efforts to start moving house. It’s been a really stressful few weeks, actually - it’s been suffocating eversince the announcement of this current house being listed up for sale. The flow of chi in the household began to experience a progressive level of choking eversince - so i’m looking forward to getting out of here ASAP now.

The design of the new place is interesting and has a west/east alignment, with windows also exposed on north in our designated workroom too. As we spend most of our time in that space, the NE orientation will be good for winter. Having too much light entering the western face is usually not good as it makes houses really hot during summer. As we’re approaching winter and have no plans to stay at the new place too much beyond 6 months, i’m hoping it will help us out a bit with heating as we face the months of winter - or at least help us bridge until we can afford to buy a portable gas heater because the house has no heating at all! It was an interesting effect to see the sunlight pouring into the house yesterday, so for now - i’m counting on it to provide healing & nourishment to help me achieve the kind of lifestyle i want for myself before the end of the year.

My bonsai fig tree being the first thing to get shifted yesterday. The picture above taken in November last year, when we began the search for the new place. It’s still a live and going well. Here it is resting at the new place now.

Looking forward to getting settled at the new place soon. The experience has so far been really daunting because it’s as though the universe has been throwing obstacles in my path to say,

“Stop & slow down!”

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The beginning of my series on how to tackle procrastination. I’ll indulge my personal history with it in more detail another time, so for now - i’m starting with the technique that became the first most effective means of *beginning* to address it within my own life. This exercise is a great starting point if you’re currently feeling really overwhelmed, stressed & depressed - because you’ve got far too many things to do which have been left unfinished.

This sort of list is very different to your regular everyday to-do list, because it’s used to list all the moments in your life whenever you experience something like;

“I really ought/should to get around to doing(or finishing) that!”

…and then it leaves you feeling truly shitty about yourself because you STILL haven’t gotten around to doing it. That yucky feeling inside which makes you feel terrible, guilty, feeling really really bad about yourself. You might hear self-talk & judgement that says,

“I’m so lazy” or “I’m such a looser”!

As soon as your body experiences that yucky feeling with thoughts like that - you go to the “things to do later” list and jot down the thing/task responsible for making you feel horrible about yourself.

What you need is a landing pad to collect these “things” as soon as you start feeling bad. It can be a blank piece of paper stuck on a wall, you can use a chalk board or a white board marker on the fridge, a small note book. It needs to be a writing space that’s easy for you to access, with the least amount of obstacles as possible.

For example - you can use a word document on the computer, but common obstacles to something like this would be to turn the computer on or that it takes too long to open up the program. If you’re using a notepad or piece of paper and you can’t find a pen anywhere in sight - you’ll be surprised by how something so small like that can hinder you during this process! It doesn’t matter what method you use - so long as it’s really easy for you to “access” and jot it down, as soon as possible.

If you leave it for far too long - you will easily forget about it, beause it’s usually a VERY deeply burried item or task which you’ve been heavily procrastinating on. Something which has been far too easy for you to allow it lurking at the very arsed end of your priority list. That’s why it’s so easy for such things to be forgotten and left in the back end of your brain.

This has happened to me many times in the past. I experienced a “yuck” - but I didn’t get around to writing it down (beause i was too lazy, or i couldn’t find a pen, or because i was too tired) …and then it got forgotten, for a very long time. Don’t beat yourself up over this if it happens! It’s normal.

The upside in completely forgetting about the thing you’ve been avoiding for so long is that it will eventually confront you by biting you on the bum and make you feel really really yucky, again!

In my experience with it, when my life confronted a second round of confrontation with something that i had forgotten to list down before, my brain would speak the following internal commentary:

“Oh! That’s one of those things you were supposed to write down, but you forgot about it again. You’d better go write that down before you forget again because it’s really important that you finish that in order to feel much better about yourself!”

When i first started this exercise, there were times when i used to forget to list things down 3-4 times. After gaining more experience & practise with this exercise, the second reminder was more than enough. The boost to my self-esteem that i experienced as the result of getting my “old” things finished began to grow, because i was eliminating the tasks & projects generating those negative feelings. It made my body very sensitive to such things getting me down after a while. I didn’t like these negative feelings at all, and that made me feel even more compelled to list them down - just for the sake of getting rid of them and out of my life, forever!

It may be a piece of “work-in-progress” that’s taking up residential space in your house somewhere. An unfinished knitting project sitting in the depths of a dark closet, untouched for many years. These things are the cobwebs in your life that need sweeping first. The more items you have and the longer they hang around untouched, the more dust they’ll begin to collect. The more dust you have living in your brain, the heavier it will make you feel.

Tackling the things that end up on this list, is very much like “defragging” your computer. The more redundant crap & bad sectors that you can clear living within your brain - the more efficiently it will operate. I’ve actually felt physical “space” opening up within my brain after finishing the things that end up on this specific list - it feels amazing! This list, essentially becomes one doorway towards hapiness.

The things that end up on this list can have a tendany to be really small & banal, like …posting a letter via snail mail. While my mind’s perception of doing something like that would say,

“Hey! That’s only going to take me just 5 minutes to do!”

The reality was that however small these things were on the list, it usually took an average of 6-8 weeks for me to confront many of them!

5minutes…. vs the reality of 6-8 weeks. This touches on how one of the key problems with procrastination is due to setting devastatingly unrealistic goals in the first place - so i’ll be writing more on this with another piece later.

Do a stocktake of the unfinished things living in your life. Review that knitting project (or other cobweb) - are you really going to finish it? Do you really want to finish it? If not - then make the decision to just toss the bugger out of the house. It’s perfectly ok to throw things out like that. When things like that are gone, they will no longer torment you! It’s finished because you’ve made an active choice to remove it out of your life, permanently. It’s gone - kapoof - nadda! You will never have to think about it, ever again!

There will be some things which you can’t delete from the list like this, but by finishing them off for good - you will be removing something in your life that’s responsible generating negative feelings, permanently.

I spent about 3-4 years using this system to clear the crap living within my life. I noticed the incredible benefits of it within the first year of doing it. I no longer need to resort to “the things to do later” list as much anymore because i’ve been able to address all of the items which were lying dormant & untouched for years. The experience of clearing those particular things out of my life permanently (or finally finishing them off) was incredible. Completed, gone - old doors from the past finally get closed and then i gained the space to start enjoying the opening of new ones.

This is the system that I currently work with at the moment with colour coded post-it notes. Each colour represents a particular branch in my life that needs attention. If there’s something important that needs my attention, but “life” is so hectic that it makes me push those things further down on the list of priorities - i make a note, and then stick it on the bottom of my computer monitor…

It doesn’t matter what system you use. While you may find present day items & tasks ending up on this list, the trick is in eliminating all of that accumulated baggage from the past, and putting it to rest - forever!

Like, just do it! Your brain will thank you for it.

NEXT anti-procrastination ARTICLE

Quit Procrastinating II - Tracking Your Recurring Obstacles